Sherri Shepherd doesn’t like to offer relationship advice because “everybody has a different situation;” however, she did have some words of wisdom for single sisters having no luck in love.
“For me, I had to say, ‘Stop thinking about the relationships and be okay with where you are.’ I think God gives everybody a season that they’re in for something. I had to go, ‘I’m ok being single. I’m ok with being with Sherri," she said. "Sherri is fun to hang out with.’ Once, I got okay with being by myself for a few years, that’s when Sal came into my life. I wasn’t looking for him.”
She continued, “Niecy Nash introduced me. I went to her party just to have a good time. I said I don’t want to meet anybody. I’m just here to have fun, eat and enjoy life. It was when I wasn’t looking that he came."
“He’s a real man. I got him from Detroit. They’re like Ford trucks: built to last!” she joked.
Sherri, who participated in a “Nightline: Face Off” panel titled, “Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?” less than a year ago, said she doesn’t have all the answers now just because she’s on her way down the aisle.
However, she did say that she never became bitter or gave up on brothers.
“I’ve been out with some knuckleheads, but I never once said, ‘I’m gonna give up on the Black man; they ain’t nothing.’ I’ve always been open. My desire has been for a Black man. I love a Black man. I don’t know how many times I can say it. There’s nothing like a Black man. I appreciate ‘em. I love ‘em,” said Sherri, who admitted that it can be hard for sisters not to become angry when dealing with society’s view of Black women.
“I’ll tell you one thing that does hurt is the fact that Black women, they have so many statistics saying we’re the last to be dated. We’re the last that people will step out of their race to date. We bear so much on our shoulders, and that hurts that people look at us like we’re not good enough, and it’s hard not to have an attitude,” she said.
“We gotta be strong. We’ve been stigmatized. I would say to my sisters, ‘No, don’t give up.’ I think there’s someone out there for everybody. Don’t harden your heart. Once you say, ‘I’m not going to do it anymore,’ and you quit, I don’t think that’s good,” Sherri said.
-Tracy L. Scott