"Love & Hip Hop" star Chrissy Lampkin shares why she wasn’t ashamed to ask her boo Jim Jones to marry her.
After six years of waiting for Jim to "get it together or forget it forever," Chrissy decided that she’d propose to him since he was taking way too long. The proposal, which will be seen on "Love & Hip Hop" later this season, has sparked debate over whether women should stick to tradition and wait for their man to get down on one knee.
The reality TV star told NecoleBitchie.com that it had been on her heart so long that she just had to ask him to marry her. "I did it to let him know that I love him enough and I am proud and happy enough to display that to the world," Chrissy said, adding that she’s not overly concerned with what people think about her bold move. "I felt it was the right thing to do. I love him enough and I wanted to share that. It’s how I felt and what I wanted."
Don’t take that as her encouraging every woman run out and buy their man a ring, though. Chrissy advises that while it’s not for every woman, ladies should really consider taking the step if it’s important enough to them. "You need to know what you’re doing with your life," she explained. "You need to have direction. If that thing doesn’t happen the traditional way, it still needs to happen."
Anyway, the "Love & Hip Hop" couple has discussed getting married many times over the course of their relationship, so the proposal didn’t come as a complete surprise to Jim. "I didn’t mind being the first one to step up," said Chrissy.
Although the couple is seriously discussing marriage, Chrissy said they’re in no rush to jump the broom right now. Besides, they’ve got a lot of talking to do about why he had her waiting so long. There are no hard feelings about the wait, but it has tested their relationship in the past.
"There’s been time when our relationship wasn’t always on the same page," Chrissy revealed. "We’ve realized that we’d rather be together dysfunctional, than apart. Relationships go through stages and you should always be learning and growing."
Until they say "I do," Jim’s taking great care of his main girl, and she wouldn’t have it any other way. "He takes good care of me. I don’t care how people take it," she said in defense. "He’s my man. What? You want him not to? I came up in a time when that’s what men did and aspire to do. What man doesn’t want to take care of his woman?"
– Sonya Eskridge