Why the Amber Cole incident needs attention

    Amber Cole’s name has become a popular one for all the wrong reasons. A videotape of the 14-year-old girl performing fellatio on a classmate outside of their high school was posted on the Internet, unfortunately leaving her open to much ridicule and judgment.

    While she was a victim of cyber bullying following the video’s distribution—which is illegal, by the way, considering she’s a minor—there were many who defended Amber.

    One particular teen posted a teary-eyed plea, a video that has racked up more than a million views on YouTube.

    “Y’all over here talking ‘bout this girl like she did a crime or something. Y’all need to stop. Leave Amber Cole alone,” she cries. “Y’all over here making fun of a girl because she likes to do a little head work in places. There’s nothing wrong with that… I don’t understand.”

    While compassion for Amber is appreciated, because no one wants to see her future ruined for her teenage error in judgment, the fact that some young girls her age don’t seem to find her behavior taboo or inappropriate is troubling.

    With the rate of STDs rising, the thought of young sisters on their knees (in front of bystanders, no less) performing oral sex, is very wrong, despite what Amber’s defenders may feel.

    Why would anyone deem this acceptable behavior?

    While no one wants to further disparage Amber’s name, it’s worth mentioning if only to make clear that this is not what we want for our daughters.

    There’s nothing wrong with sex at the appropriate age, time, place and person with whom there is hopefully shared affection, and that’s what we want for our girls.


    Watch the "Leave Amber Cole Alone" video below.


    Tracy L. Scott is a freelance writer and editor, based in the Washington, D.C. area. She is the author of the Single Independent Sistah blog.






    What do you think of the Amber Cole incident? Does oral sex among teenagers bother you, or is it just something to be expected? Who’s most at fault for the incident?



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