Making the decision to remain a virgin until marriage wasn’t a hard one for TV’s Edwina Findley and now she’s spreading her message of abstinence to others.
“I was taught to wait. So, I have,” Edwina told Sister 2 Sister. “So many really, really wanted to walk that journey and wanted to know how. More men than we think really have a desire, but just don’t have the model.”
Since sharing her story of abstinence, Edwina said she’s been invited to speak to male and female audiences about living a chaste life. Surprisingly, she said her message is usually received with open minds.
“The men ended up giving me a standing ovation. They were just so amazed and you could see their whole countenance change. When they came up to me, they were just so ginger with me. They barely even wanted to hug me,” recalled Edwina.
The fact that she’s now engaged may have had a little something to do with the men’s reluctance to hug all up on her.
Edwina said she realized Kelvin was the man for her when he opted to protect her virginity as opposed to trying that much harder to take it.
“We’re men. We’re to lead women and protect them,” he said.
That was a relatively new train of thought for Kelvin, who chose to practice abstinence after years of engaging in premarital sex.
“A lot of my earlier life was not in the church. I was not trying to follow God. I had a lot of relationships and whatnot. Being in Christ now, I’m really a huge advocate for sexual purity in single men. There’s just so many different advantages with that,” said Kelvin, who explained that abstaining from sex helped him get to know Edwina better.
“If I had had sexual relationships with Edwina, I would never be able to look at her as the beautiful queen she is. I would be looking at her body,” he admitted.
Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin, Tamera Mowry and Adam Housley, and Sherri Shepherd and Lamar Sally are just a few Hollywood couples who’ve shared their stories of abstinence before marriage. Edwina’s glad more celebs are talking about it.
“I love … entertainers being open about their private lives in this way,” she said. “It’s a valuable story to share and a valuable message to share for those who want to embrace it.”
Edwina talks about her HBO family in the December 2012 issue of Sister 2 Sister.
Check out a clip of Edwina in "Treme" below.
—Tracy L. Scott