If there’s such a thing as having it all, Monica definitely does. She’s got a lasting, critically acclaimed career, a loving husband and outstanding family. But her family includes her ex-fiancee Rocko, who is the father of her two sons.
Monica’s boys are well provided for, but it’s not because she did it on her own. She fully expects Rocko to do his part as a father, and that means taking care of his kids without anyone ordering him to do so. The “Everything To Me” siren began schooling JD and his friends on how to combine different families effectively after he said that more men need a babymama like her. Although she was very vocal about disliking the label “babymama,” she was still gracious enough to impart some wisdom to viewers.
“People always ask me, ‘How do you make a blended family work?’ It is what you make it. The first order of business as parents is we gotta respect one another,” Monica told Jermaine Dupri on the latest episode of his reality webseries. “I don’t believe in the court system. I’m not steppin’ in no court house, I’m not callin’ them people.”
While some guys would be thrilled if their own babymamas took the same attitude, Monica had to break down why it is simply not that easy. She’s not leaving Rocko allowing Rocko to get lazy with his responsibilities. He knows exactly what is expected of him.
“Let me explain. This is my thing. I’m sure every situation may require something different, but for me, I feel like a real man will be man enough to assess the needs of his child, and make sure that it happens. I don’t need to call you and I don’t need to call them people for you,” Monica reasoned.
“Since I feel that way, I’ve never had any discrepancies with the father of my oldest children at all. Period. Point blank,” she said. “When it’s time for it to get done, he can access the needs, come in and see what they need and it gets done.”
But Monica acknowledge that her situation is not simply a matter of setting up clear expectations. She knows that she’s only dealing with the type of men that take their responsibilities very seriously, but she hasn’t forgotten that there are guys who are selfish and all about themselves.
Fortunately for her, she married another man that knows how to make her a priority and own his position as head of the house. As such, Monica feels that there her role as wife and mother also comes with its own responsibilities.
“My husband being the ultimate man, I don’t even have to say anything. But vice versa, he doesn’t have to be in there fixing his own plate, vacuuming the floors and everything,” Monica stated. “I still enjoy being needed. I’m the boss at my job, so I don’t feel like I should be the boss at home. Shannon’s the boss and that’s just it.
This may not be a terribly modern view on how male-female relationships work, but Monica couldn’t care less what anyone thinks as long as it keeps her family happy and healthy. “You got some high society women that will argue me down,” Monica said. “I’m not looking for an argument, I just know what works in my house. They say, ‘Good girls are no fun,’ but good girls are always where they run when trouble come.”