After five years of marriage and a nasty custody battle with her ex-husband, NBA star Dwyane Wade, Siohvaughn Wade is finally speaking her truth.
"One of the reasons I wanted to tell my story was because I have overcome the fear of speaking the truth about what has been happening to myself and to my children," she told Ebony.com, referring to the four-year battle that resulted in her losing custody of her two sons in March 2011.
Siohvaughn and Dwyane started dating at the age of 15, and remained together through college and into the early years of his pro career.
She said one of the most traumatic things she and her children went through was abandonment. She claims Dwyane, whom she now refers to as Mr. Wade, had no contact with their youngest son, Zion, for over three months.
"By the time Mr. Wade came back around and saw him again, Zion didn’t recognize his own father. I was trying to be the glue to hold the pieces together, at least for the sake of the children, not so much for the marriage. But their relationship with their dad was really, really tough," she said.
Dwyane recently released a book, A Father First: How My Life Became Bigger Than Basketball, last month. But the picture he’s painted is not the same as his ex-wife’s.
She said after Dwyane was drafted, she started to see sides of him that she had never seen, like him physically abusing their oldest son, Zaire, with a closed fist to the chest.
"He has literally caused an asthma attack," she said.
Siohvaughn said money and fame were the deciding factors in their custody battle, and Dwyane knew the judge’s decision before it was announced in court.
"This was not a case about justice or what was righteous before court; this was clearly a case about fame and wealth," she said. "Now, I’ve realized that Mr. Wade had to have known about the custody decision before anyone else did. The children were discussing how difficult it was going to be [being away from me] and I didn’t even know they were going to be taken away from me."
When asked how her children are coping today with their parents’ separation, she said that even getting phone calls from them is hard.
"To have my son say, ‘Mommy, I want to come home,’ or ‘Mom, why can’t I go to my green room?’ Because his room is green at my house. Those questions like that are really, really difficult," she said.
Siohvaughn says she’s been able to keep her sanity through her faith in God.
"I still believe in the love of God and that the love of God still flows through people…There was no other man to help me get through this. The only man was Jesus," she said.
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