While some parents still hold onto the traditional adage that kids should be seen and not heard, Jada Pinkett Smith said she considers her children equals.
“I think that old-school style of ‘I’m your parent and I’m greater than you’ doesn’t work," she recently told People magazine.
“What I establish with my children is a partnership,” said the actress, whose two younger kids are in show business. Her stepson, Trey, hasn’t expressed any Hollywood aspirations yet.
Jada’s children have already expressed their creative sides, often wearing colorful outfits and artistic hairstyles, and Jada said by encouraging them to be themselves; she becomes their primary influence.
When “instilling in [Willow] the power for individuality, we communicate with our kids in a way that our message overpowers any other message that they get out there,” she said.
“I think for our children … they feel like we really care and they come to us and go, ‘Mommy, I’m having this problem,’” explained Jada, who doesn’t shield her kids from gossip and rumors about the family, and explains the challenges that come with fame.
“We can’t control what our kids learn anymore,” she said. “We have to inform them and have real conversations.”
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—Tracy L. Scott
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