Jennifer Williams is sharing a little bit of wisdom that she gained while going through her divorce.
Once she filed for divorce from Eric Williams on “Basketball Wives,” she immediately hit the town and started heading out with different men. For a while it looked like her dance card was always full. It wasn’t just because she felt that she was finally free to get back into the dating pool, though. She admitted in an open letter that she felt like she needed to move on from her ex-man by finding the next man.
“When I first started going through my divorce, my initial reaction was I need to date someone. That rebound guy, someone to distract me from my real feelings,” Jenn wrote. “When I got that, I realized it was a temporary fulfillment. What I really needed was to heal my soul and my heart so I could genuinely be open to honestly and whole-heartedly truly loving again.”
As someone who’s been through the ups and downs of love on national TV, she feels that a big part of finding the right person is to get right with yourself.
“Love can be the must amazing feeling in the world and the most hurtful as well. It truly is a funny thing!” Jenn stated. “I feel the key to finding love is to be happy with you first. Make sure you are at a place in your life where you are content and your heart is open to love. Love requires work and compromise.
Jen, who is currently dating Cisco Rosado, continued, “I also feel like when you least expect it, love will knock you over. Focus on yourself; work, family, friends and whatever else makes you happy and when God feels you are ready he will bring you the perfect companion.”
But even having your perfect match doesn’t excuse anyone from the fact that quality time is important if your love is to last. In Jenn’s opinion, getting some time one-on-one (preferably in person) is the only way to make things work.
“Communication is key to a thriving, loving, healthy relationship. Nowadays everyone gets caught up in texting,” she stated. “A relationship cannot survive when a ‘new message’ alert is your lifeline. Pick up the phone and listen to each other’s voice. You cannot feel true emotion through a text and things can be taken out of context.
If there’s one thing that no relationship can survive without, though, Jen feels that it is trust. Giving everyone the chance to start from a clean slate helps, too! “It is vital not to bring your past experiences of a bad relationship into your present relationship,” Jen advised. “Everyone deserves a fair chance until they do something to make you give them the side eye.”