Newlywed Tamera Mowry explains why she thinks race shouldn’t matter when you’re trying to find your mate.
Tamera told Essence.com that race was never really a big deal in her world growing up. In fact, it was such a non-factor, that she didn’t realize her parents were different until someone else pointed it out.
"I’m a product of an interracial marriage—and I never really grew up seeing color. I honestly realized that my dad was White when someone told me in middle school," Tamera said. "I knew what race was, but it didn’t matter to me."
Although it doesn’t matter to Tamera or her new husband Adam Housley, who is a reporter for FOX News, the same can’t be said for everyone else. While Tamera didn’t go into specifics about how other people receive them, she admitted that skin color has been an issue for others sometimes.
"Yes we are an interracial couple. The thing is we do still deal with that," Tamera revealed. "People always question that. If anything, it hurts, but we do have more people supporting us than making stupid comments. We kind of just ignore it and focus on the positive."
Speaking of positives, Tamera knew that Adam was the man for her when he could accept her no matter how she looked. Au natural or all dolled up, he’ll take his Tamera any way she’s comfortable. "I can be completely myself," she explained. "I have naturally curly hair, but a lot of my ex-boyfriends always liked it straight. It’s a lot of work keeping it straight all the time, whereas Adam liked me as me."
But it’s not just about the hair; Tamera said she could keep it real with him in any setting. She never felt like she had to put on a show or maintain any other facade to keep him interested. When they go out on dates, she’s always been comfortable chowing down in front of her man. And Tamera doesn’t have to worry about editing what comes out of her mouth, either.
"I didn’t feel like I had to watch what I say or watch what I do. I could completely just be raw and that’s how I knew," Tamera shared, adding that their friendship really became a staple in her life. "I always wanted to be with him. I never got tired of him. He made me feel very comfortable."
Getting back to race, though, Tamera knows she probably would have missed Adam if she weren’t at least open to dating someone of a different race. That’s why she advises other women not to dismiss a man that may be a few shades lighter (or darker) than them.
"Love is love and a lot of times people might be in the situation they’re in because they put barriers up," the actress said. "Like some people only want to date a model, or an actor, or an athlete. You’re only limiting yourself. Open up to what’s out there because God made us all."
Now that she’s officially hitched, Tamera is loving married life ("It’s amazing"), but there is one major adjustment that the 33-year-old has had to make since becoming Mrs. Housely. "We haven’t lived together, so we’re going through that right now. Moving is challenging, but it’s rewarding," Tamera admitted.
"Adam has to do most of the moving so I kind of feel sorry for him in that sense," she added. "He’s moving into my place and one of the main things that we’re going through right now is that I don’t want him to feel like a visitor. It’s our place."
And while she’s making room for her man, Tamera is also getting accustomed to changing the way she speaks.
"We’re kind of going through the transition where you say ‘my place’ and then you’re like, ‘no, wait, it’s our place,’" said Tamera. "Plus, saying ‘my husband,’ that feels amazing, too. There’s something that just goes through your body when you say those words."